Thanksgiving- "I'm Thankful for My Mom"

I’m thankful for my mom, she is one of the hardest workers I know by showing me the path of perseverance and resilience.

I’m thankful for my mom, she is one of the hardest workers I know by showing me the path of perseverance and resilience.

Thanksgiving serves as a great reminder to realize how lucky I truly am. I used to feel lonely throughout the holidays because I felt distant from my relatives, who all reside in northern California. My holidays are spent with my immediate family: my mom, stepdad, and two of my brothers. I used to wish to spend the holidays at one big family party, however, those thoughts of sadness took away the very importance of what Thanksgiving is. Those moments of sadness did not let me appreciate or even acknowledge all the work my mom has done to provide for my family. Now, I greatly appreciate all my mom’s hard work to make the best of every holiday she can. Although my mom struggles financially she does the best she can to provide for my brothers and I. I’m thankful for my mom, she is one of the hardest workers I know by showing me the path of perseverance and resilience.

I am also thankful for the counselors in my past who helped me during my depression. I now realize that when presented with hardship it is so easy to become forgetful of all the blessings in one’s own life by glorifying and romanticizing the lives of others. However, upon reflection, I realize I am very privileged myself; I am healthy, surrounded by individuals who care for me, have an education, as well as a full time job that is filled with constant learning experiences. I now do not dread the holidays and look forward to spending Thanksgiving with my immediate family. I am grateful that I have the opportunity to help my mom financially and that I am able express to my family and loved ones how much they are appreciated.

Thanksgiving-"I am thankful that by chance I found a wonderful place to start my Life"

I am thankful that by chance I found a wonderful place to start my life.

I am thankful that by chance I found a wonderful place to start my life.

 Well, 1st of all I'm thankful to be alive and not in a hospital, and that my children still love me. It was just by chance that I looked at a list of places to go and I picked South Orange County Detox & Treatment, simply because it was in San Clemente.  How could I know that I was going to get a chance at not just getting the alcohol out of my body, but to find out my the underlying issues....be able to be not just physically sober but emotionally sober, is a gift that Salina has such a firm, loving logical, hold on. I am thankful that by chance I found a wonderful place to start my life.

Thanksgiving- Family

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Thanksgiving reminds me of family and bonding. This past year has been difficult but the place that I am in my life today is amazing. I have so much to be thankful for; I am thankful for the birth of my beautiful baby girl and I am thankful to have someone in my life, whom I am in love with. I am definitely thankful that Salina and all the staff at SOCD believe in me, even when I don’t believe in myself.

Instead of focusing on the difficulties the past year has presented I try to focus on the amazing things that I do have going on and mainly my sobriety. I am excited to have this Thanksgiving with my friends and family and I am able to be present. My life is the way it is today because the work that I have put in as well as the work other people have invested in me. I used to dread the holidays, but now I couldn’t have more to be thankful for and I am blessed beyond belief.

Thanksgiving- South OC Detox & Treatment Word of the Week

Thanksgiving

As we approach Thanksgiving it has reminded me to remain grateful for my recovery. It’s so easy to take things for granted, and I can forget to appreciate the things I have and the people I have in my support system. This is the reason I compose a daily gratitude list, whether something as simple as the Sunset or the Clouds in the Sky or as Big as appreciating my Girlfriend, or a friend like Salina. It's important to write these things down daily, so I don’t forget the important aspects of my life.  Thanksgiving is a perfect time to remember everything that we have in life instead of the things we don’t have. Today, I’m Thankful for my Recovery and the People Surrounding Me.

Resentment- Word of the Week

Resentment- Word of the Week

Holding onto resentments binds us from emotional liberation.  As addicts, we have developed a psychological comfortability with certain disruptive behaviors. Living in distress becomes second nature. We must learn to reprogram our way of thinking through positive affirming actions.  Remember, RESENT is the word PRESENT without the 'P".   We must learn to not RESENT others, and PRESENT our anger to God, as a gift for our own personal freedom so that we can live in forgiveness and peace that we all so deserve.

Perseverance

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This weeks word of the week Perseverance is extremely necessary, and relatable to the program and recovery. Perseverance is remaining persistent and steadfast through any obstacles, difficulties, or even discouragements. It’s easy to self-doubt yourself when going through any hardship you’ve never experienced before or even one you have and failed many times at. Perseverance is a thought and an action, which when practiced over and over, creates new neurological pathways in your brain which, when practiced enough, creates new healthy habits.  When new neurological pathways and healthy habits are created, this changes the brains routing structure and can kill old and bad habits. The 12-step program uses this very same concept when you find a sponsor and he advises you to 30 meetings in 30 days. What he is doing here is simply rewiring you brain so that you create healthier habits.

Perseverance is essential in all areas of life, some for the good and some for the bad. How do you think you got started being a drug addict? Years and Years of repeated behavior, creating new neural pathways.  Today however, we have the wherewithal and knowledge to use this tool/technique to benefit us to allow ourselves to live fuller, more meaningful lives. So whenever you’re going though a rough time and you’re not sure if you can make it; If you think you’re just too used to the life you’ve been living … remember that there is a scientific tool that is proven to work that can change your old self-defeating behaviors.  IT’s just the same concept as, “practice makes perfect” and if you want to get better at something you will find the best and shortest way to make yourself most efficient.

Perseverance- Recovery Word of the Week

perseverance-WORD OF THE WEEK

We may not have had a word of the week at SOUTH ORANGE COUNTY DETOX & TREATMENT  yet that aptly describes what is required to maintain lasting sobriety that also encompasses so many of the past words we have featured here in this segment up to this point; this week we are going to talk about perseverance. Typically, I wouldn’t spend too much time giving dictionary definitions in these blog posts but I really like how this one applies to our word this week in relation to recovery. Perseverance is defined as “steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.” The reason this definition, in particular, sticks out to me is its emphasis on maintaining tenacity through a process despite actually reaching a goal. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we can’t achieve successes and reach milestones throughout recovery, but I am saying that the happiest amongst us, I believe, have come to realize that sobriety is about the journey and not about the destination. It is not about how many days, months, or years we can put together, but rather what we can do during that time. Quality not Quantity. Of course, the quantity is generally indicative of the quality because during this time sober if we have created a life that isn’t worth going back to a life of suffering and misery where drugs and alcohol are our only solace, we are more likely to keep trudging through, even during the most difficult of times, and that is perseverance.
            Throughout our lives, and especially within the realm of the recovery process, we face many obstacles. As someone who has familiarized himself all too well with how not to deal with these unavoidable barriers life puts up, I can say assuredly that I have learned that there is one technique I try now to avoid as though it were the plague, and that is to maintain an attitude of indifference. “It works if you work it”; we all know the mantra, but do we meditate on how true this statement really is? We’ve all been told that if we really want something, all we need to do is work hard for it and it can be ours. I don’t necessarily believe this to be true for most things. For example, as much as I wanted to be a professional basketball player growing up, and as hard as I possibly could have worked, I don’t believe it would have happened. I’m too short, I don’t jump very high, and quite frankly, I’m just not that talented. I’m not trying to paint a bleak picture or tell people not to strive for their dreams, but I am trying to make a point which is this: If we want success beyond our wildest dreams in regards to recovery, all we really have to do is work for it. The key to our success in sobriety are the action steps we take towards it and the integral action throughout the entirety of this process is perseverance. John Adams said it this way, “Perseverance has a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.” Another way this has been told to me is that there is no substitute for hard work and perseverance. When battling addiction, this is no exception. As addicts, if we can keep pushing forward and have faith that during the process of recovery the promises will come to fruition, we will surely find that we will eventually reap what we sow, for better, and for those unwilling to apply perseverance, for worse.