Word for the Week

A Full Life Wasn’t Meant to be Lived Alone

Connection- Recovery Word of the Week  South OC Detox & Treatment-949-584-5927

Connection- Recovery Word of the Week

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Throughout life, and due to addiction, I’ve faded away from who I truly am.  The lines that tethered me to my moral foundations were cut away, leaving me miserable, passive and searching for solace in all the wrong places.  Making the decision to clean up, work on my defects and become a better person has helped to guide me back to the cornerstones of my foundations that makes me who I was meant to be. It hasn’t been easy.  It’s as if I’m going to war with myself to kill the man I’ve been in order to defeat this alter-ego who had taken me prisoner.  Once the smoke clears and the dust settles, I’m able to rebuild – to re-connect with my family, friends and most importantly myself.  But I can’t do it alone.  I need allies to connect with as well – support groups, a higher power, hobbies and passions.  A full life wasn’t meant to be lived alone.

Captain of the Team- Leadership

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When most people think about the word “leadership” they may think of the leader of a political party or the leader of a Country or President. For me growing up playing sports most of my life, the role of leader was typically given to the Captain of the team or someone who communicated well with teammates. When I played sports I was usually that person, I was either Captain or Assistant Captain of most of the teams I played for and that position usually had more responsibility then other players. You were expected to be at practice and games earlier, working harder, and if something was going wrong within the team you were the first person the coach would talk to. As I got older and my addiction got worse, I became more selfish, cared less about my team and how we did and eventually stopped playing sports all together. I forgot how important it was to be a leader and to have a leader around you to help guide you to success. When I first entered rehab and the program of AA I was new to everything. I knew nothing about AA and what it took to get and stay sober and at first did not have any intention of learning or growing. Once I went to some AA meetings and people told me I needed to get a sponsor to help guide and lead me through the steps and help me get sober I was resistant to that at first. My pride got in the way and I was not able to see that I was not the leader that I once was and that I needed someone to help me get through this hard time so that I could lead and guide people through the steps and helping them get sober.

When I came to South Orange County Detox & Treatment (SOCD) and started helping people get clean, I felt that sense of leadership starting with Salina the Program Director. Being at SOCD, seeing Salina’s vision and knowledge, and seeing so many peoples lives transform has given me that confidence back to be a leader and to be able to help people get and stay sober. To me, a leader does not have to be powerful or better than anyone else, a leader just needs to be open and honest, willing to help people, compassionate, loving, and caring and that is what a true leader is to me.

 

Laughing with Others in Recovery

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It’s important to have laughter in your life. Laughter just makes you happy, even if something isn’t funny and you are having a bad day, force yourself to laugh at nothing. For some reason, it makes me feel better. In recovery, everyone makes mistakes. When I do, I know I get really hard on myself and I beat myself up. It took me a long time to find this out, but being able laugh at yourself and learn from your mistakes is the only way to fully grow in my life, at least. Laugh with others, not at others is an important rule to remember. Encourage others to use this tool, it can’t hurt, it could only make things better.

A Safe Haven of Trust in Sobriety

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When I was a child trust was ruined by the physical and verbal abuse from my family. I don’t think I even really knew what it meant to trust someone. As I got older I started to let my barriers down and soon after I was let down again. When I would start to trust someone they would betray me. I lived my life by the “trust no one” rule. Most of the time it served me well, keeping me out of trouble and dangerous situations. But, there was also a good percentage of people that could have made a positive change in my life if I would have trusted them. Life got harder and harder, the physical and mental damage of drugs took a toll on me.

For 26 years I was hoping that I can crawl out of the void I’ve been living in, until I came to SOCD I can say with 100% honesty that SOCD’s staff and clients were easy to get along with. I knew this was my safe haven because it feels like you are living at home. The program director helped with my addictions, the fear that I carried inside, and also found the underlying issues that I struggled with. I now have 9 months of sobriety, the most I have ever had, and I wouldn’t have been able to do it without SOCD.

The Language of Music

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     There are times when a language needs to be spoken that spans both time and communication barriers. A language so primal that it speaks to your core. A language that assures you that all is well and gives you the confidence and rhythm to tackle life and all that comes with it. That’s the language of music.

      Music has always been a sort of safe haven for me. An almost alternative plane of existence in another dimension. It’s been there for me when everything else around me was crumbling. It gave me hope, a voice and an identity – just as it did to so many generations before me. I was able to express feelings and thoughts I was afraid or incapable of communicating. Music has been and is a guiding light for me still. I don’t know where music comes from but I believe it to be a gift from God.

Taking "Action" through Self-Love & Emotional Growth as an Athlete

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Being an athlete throughout my life the word action held a quite obvious meaning to me. Action meant running around and playing games. Continuing my active lifestyle, I became a college athlete who received a scholarship to run cross country and track and field for Cal State Fullerton. I had hopes of running fast but due to self-doubt and lack of effort this dream only appeared to be exactly that, a dream. I yearned to be fast, but my actions demonstrated otherwise. I skipped days of practice, constantly ate unhealthy food, and did not get enough rest to replenish my body. Soon enough I began to despise the sport due to the stress and lack of progression. I was in denial, trying to convince myself that somehow, I would achieve my goals and become fast and emotionally healthy without putting effort into my goals.

Seeing as running is a mentally challenging sport, I came to realize that I would not be able to progress as a runner unless I grew mentally. Thus, I decided that I needed to break away from running and take the first step towards my goals by receiving therapeutic help. Ironically, I found a different meaning for the word action when I decided to take a break from being a student athlete.  I knew that to reach my goals of performing well in the sport of running I needed to eliminate the emotional barriers that blocked my progression. Upon deep reflection I knew that I would not be able to achieve my goals if I did not act and work on my emotional growth.

The time away from the sport allowed me to regain focus of my goals and why I wanted to achieve them; not for my coach, not for scholarship money, but for myself. Once I started to act in self-love and stopped comparing myself to others I was able to focus on my goals and was able to become a better version of myself and eventually reach my goals as a runner. Ultimately, I realized that my actions determine my future. If I want something I have to do more that just wish for it, I must act on it. It is easy to put the blame for lack of success on outside variables, but true growth comes from within. Once I realized that my own actions determine my results it was clear that I could not achieve my goals unless I worked hard for it.

 “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

 

 

 

 

Beauty and Emotional Sobriety

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To me in recovery beauty is in the mental and physical transformation that happens when we properly work on emotional recovery. The transformation in a persons character and behaviors become humble and their ability to understand themselves and other addicts on a much deeper level. The humility in overcoming a rock bottom makes us grateful for life on life’s terms because they have lived a shallow empty life on their terms that didn’t work out. When we live in love for the little things in life and we become content and present with ourselves and live in the moment, we can feel the vibe of serenity in the surrender of our behavior. To me, that is the beauty of the gift of desperation that God gives addicts in recovery.

Beauty- God's Gift in Recovery

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To me in recovery beauty is in the mental and physical transformation that happens when we properly work on emotional recovery. The transformation in a persons character and behaviors become humble and their ability to understand themselves and other addicts on a much deeper level. The humility in overcoming a rock bottom makes us grateful for life on life’s terms because they have lived a shallow empty life on their terms that didn’t work out. When we live in love for the little things in life and we become content and present with ourselves and live in the moment, we can feel the vibe of serenity in the surrender of our behavior. To me, that is the beauty of the gift of desperation that God gives addicts in recovery.

HOPE IN EARLY RECOVERY

HOPE IN EARLY RECOVERY

"At this moment, early in my recovery and the beginning of self-discovery, I must always remember to have hope and faith that I can have a life beyond my wildest dreams if I put in the effort to make it so".