Perfectionism can interfere with connecting to one’s self and with others. I am often not present because I am too busy thinking of ways to perfect the things I think about. I fear that of some of my core beliefs will prove themselves to be true. Therefore, I spend time perfecting myself, so that I come off as someone to be friends with or someone who is lovable. This is often true in my passion for surfing and skateboarding, which I take very seriously. I see myself trying to do a trick surfing or skating that I forget to be in the moment and have fun. It is something I force myself to progress in. The only time I am amping on myself is when I am scared out of my mind to take off on a Big Wave but I force myself to prove the fear wrong from holding myself back. After I make it out alive and in one piece, I feel accomplished. Same for skateboarding. I need to be ok with not being hard on myself and still be the one doing the gnarliest tricks in the park. For me, I can always do better. At least I feel that way. I need to enjoy the “Bag of Tricks I have On-Lock” and be ok with them, and believe that my abilities will perfect themselves.