In recovery I think as long as your intentions are not selfishly calculated, and are authentic and pure, mistakes should be looked at as good learning experiences. Now I make my decisions from the heart with pure intentions. Those who are selfishly calculated miss out on learning experiences and their recovery stays stunted and in an emotional delay. Letting go of selfish intentions helped me learn that by helping others and trying to understand them I get to see life in a different perspective. I’ve learned the difference between a selfish person verses a real friend. A real friend is someone who is unselfish and in tuned with helping me better myself. Intentions means everything to me, it really shows who is a good person and who isn’t. My friends today have my best interest and their intentions are pure.