To have a dream is to have a vision of achieving a goal. However, to some individuals, like myself, there is an emphasis that is focused on being secure. This sense of security halts a dream in order to avoid failure. Being afraid to fail fills individuals with self-doubt. Wishing to avoid failure is to avoid a dream altogether. To be successful failure is inevitable. Achieving a dream is not an easy path. The differentiating factor for those who are successful and those who are not successful is the willingness to continue to persevere after failure. To dream is to face failure with an open mind and to perceive failure as a learning experience. Being said, dreams are not impossible, but they do require hard work, determination, perseverance and courage. Dreamers are falsely identified as impractical; but what is impractical is the idea that one can achieve their dream merely by wishful thinking. Others might try to discourage you, or not believe in you, but as long as you believe in yourself achieving your dream is possible. One great example that recently came to my attention is the story of Andre Ingram. Ingram dreamed to play in the NBA but was not skilled enough. However, Ingram did not give up this dream. He continued to play in the G-league in hopes to pursue his dream of someday playing in the NBA. It was not until 10 years later, Ingram finally fulfilled his dream of playing in the NBA and was contracted to play for the Los Angeles Lakers. After 10 years of pursuing his dream it finally came true. Thomas Edison quoted “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” I believe this quote is true to many. In a fast pace society, we are so entitled and want instant gratification. If the instant gratification is not achieved people tend to lose interest and give up. This lack of perseverance makes achieving a dream impossible. I personally think the mind is our most powerful tool. Once sharpened there is no telling what we are capable of. But it is all dependent upon oneself. If a dream is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse; so, how bad do you want it?
Dreams are important to have in order to establish a vision of who and where you would like to be in the future. Setting goals can help the vision of the dream become a reality. Little by little, you will be able to see that by accomplishing each goal, your dreams will soon be in reach. Dreams don’t just happen, you need to put in the work to gain what you dream in life. Dreaming big is a good thing, but also can be bad because you may hold yourself to a high standard or expectations that may not be met. Dreaming a vision that seems more realistic can give you more hope and confidence to where you may even exceed more than your original dream. If I keep my dream in reach, it feels more attainable.
With 5 months of sobriety approaching, I have been able to notice the clarity in my thinking and a deeper understanding of my identity. A part of myself that I suppressed for so long throughout my addiction. Residing in that self-imposed exile where my false-self was conquering over my true-self, I gave up on my hopes and dreams that I had once cherished so dearly. With the help of Salina and SOCD, I’ve been able to envision what my ideal life looks like and I can finally see the blueprint of how to arrive there. I’m better able to realize the essentials of a full and meaningful life and understand the importance of having balance in all areas of life. Now that I have clarity and faith that everything that happens throughout my journey is meant to happen, I feel more at ease. Now that I have a dream I feel more confident. I know I must have a vision, because where this is no vision, there is no hope.
In recovery since I’ve been sober I got the ability back to dream. A lot of the time in my dreams my conscience come out. All of my fears come alive in my dreams along with things I want in life. I look at my dreams as messages from myself to myself. In recovery my dreams are helpful. They show me what it is that I need to work on in life along with what not to do in life. The ability to dream is a gift. The fact that I can process and take a moment to reflection what I was dreaming about and get a positive message from something I’m not in control of is amazing. Dreams help me in sobriety to stay ahead of the game they also show me what it is that I need to know in the moment. In recovery, without dreams I wouldn’t know what I know today.