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Love at South Orange County Detox and Treatment

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When I was young love was a foreign word to me. Although my parents would shelter, feed, and take care of me, there was a lack of love. I thought this was a normal thing to be happening at this age. I soon realized how other children were not experiencing this. And this would trigger anger and rage. I grew up fighting, arguing, and rebelling which turned me into a negative mess.

     Fast forwarding I turned into a gang member and a violent criminal. Spending time in and out of jail, getting into unhealthy relationships and surrounding myself with very negative people. I was doing very badly with my life until I checked myself into South Orange County Detox and Treatment (SOCD) and met the Program Director, Salina Shuler.  She taught me tolerance, patience, loyalty, trust, and LOVE. I have never experienced that and since being shown these things, I’ve completely turned my outlook on life around. SOCD is teaching me how to be an honest man and move forward with positivity. I am forever grateful for South Orange County Detox & Treatment.

Authentic Love

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Love is more than just a feeling. Love can be a vibe or atmosphere when around something or someone. It can be as simple as being content with my passion, or love with a significant other. The love I have for others isn’t about looks but who they are as a person. Being non-judgmental at first, taking the time to know and understand them. I find the inner beauty in others. Past or present, experiences, negative or positive, truly caring, loyal, honest, and compassionate for this significant other helped me fall in love over time, disregarding their appearance or past, only focusing on the present. Love isn’t something you want to rush into at first sight, this can be decieving, it takes time. Whether it’s a relationship or your passion, love is something you commit yourself to. Working through the difficult times and the outcome will be well worth it

Love Redefined

 Love has been a misnomer in my life because I have never truly known what love is. I always thought that families inherently love each other or that if I am physically intimate with someone than there must be love. But this isn’t true nor healthy. I’m more aware of how love is shown through action, emotional connection, communication and an overall sense of being selfless and honest with one’s self and with each other.

Love has been a misnomer in my life because I have never truly known what love is. I always thought that families inherently love each other or that if I am physically intimate with someone than there must be love. But this isn’t true nor healthy. I’m more aware of how love is shown through action, emotional connection, communication and an overall sense of being selfless and honest with one’s self and with each other.

Getting sober and working on my recovery has given me an idea of what love is, how to show it and all the great things that can be developed as a result. Being here at SOCD, and with Salinas guidance and effort, I have been able to explore how love and the lack of it, has affected my life and my relationships. Love has been a misnomer in my life because I have never truly known what love is. I always thought that families inherently love each other or that if I am physically intimate with someone than there must be love. But this isn’t true nor healthy. I’m more aware of how love is shown through action, emotional connection, communication and an overall sense of being selfless and honest with one’s self and with each other. I know that I am not capable of truly loving anyone until I can love and treat myself better. If I can’t maintain emotional, mental, physical, or financial stability then how can I expect to be a stable partner, son, brother, or friend? Thanks, in large part, to this program and Salina, am I able to slowly start attaining a level of stability, self-worth and serenity in order to show myself the love I deserve. Only then will I be able to show true love to others and to develop healthier relationships without any ulterior motives or selfishness.

Love- Loving Myself and Others in Sobriety

 Being sober gives me the chance to truly discover who I am, and learn to love myself so that I can give and show love to other people, by showing the people I love that I care and appreciate them.

Being sober gives me the chance to truly discover who I am, and learn to love myself so that I can give and show love to other people, by showing the people I love that I care and appreciate them.

Love is something that is felt but also something that is shown through action. To show that you love someone is to do things for them that show you care for them and your grateful for them. Doing things for them shows that you care. But something just as simple as telling them or expressing how you feel, can make a major impact. Throughout my life I never felt love or acceptance, and if I did it was normally from a false idea of love or an idealized version. Being sober gives me the chance to truly discover who I am, and learn to love myself so that I can give and show love to other people, by showing the people I love that I care and appreciate them.

Commitment-"Being Impeccable with my Word"

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For myself commitment has always been a very difficult thing for me. In my active addiction and before I was in active addiction, I could never commit or follow through with anything. I would be motivated at first and start something, but could never finish it. When I first came to rehab, it was very hard for me to commit to staying in treatment long term and commit to staying sober. I would go into treatment, and slide by without putting in the work just to please my parents and family. It was very hard to understand and conceptualize the concept of AA meetings and realizing that I had to stay clean from all mood and mind altering substances and I had to commit to that in order to stay sober. At first, I thought that everyone was crazy and that I was different and I could drink alcohol and smoke weed because my problem was with drugs. I soon found out that wasn’t the case, I was just like everyone else and I had a problem with all mood and mind altering substances. The concept of committing was still very foreign to me; it took a very long time to realize that I was no different from any other addict and that until I fully committed to staying sober, and working on myself I could not stay clean. Today, when I think of commitment I think of being impeccable with my word, when I make a commitment I need to follow through with it and do what I say I am going to do because if I don’t I can slip back into old behaviors and possibly relapse. In my eyes, commitment is a very crucial part of recovery and being able to stay clean and sober, until I can fully commit to being sober I can’t stay clean.

Commitment-Making Strong Family Bonds

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I have recently found myself wanting a life I don’t currently have. I want a life where I am sober, happy, and have strong bonds with my family. Always trying to take the easy way out has left me with nothing and always wanting more. Its true what they say though, nothing in life worth having comes easy and without making sacrifices and commitments. I am going to have to continue to make drastic changes to the way I think and the way I act. I need to continue to take constructive criticism and advice from others. This all seems like a lot of work but I know deep down that to be truly happy, no commitment seems to big to overcome.

"Letting Others Help Me"- Commitment in Recovery

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Its not easy making any kind of commitment in life, at least for me. I think it stems from my childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood. I came from an abusive family that made it almost impossible for me to commit to trusting anyone. During my teenage years, I started to use drugs and alcohol and hang out with dangerous people and those are the people I got used to being around. When positive people would present themselves in my life I would not commit myself to starting a relationship with them. Finally, in my early 20’s, I got into a relationship that ended very badly and that made it difficult to believe that I could love anyone. I see now that all of this lack of commitment to anything was only hurting myself. People would often try and offer help but I would turn the other direction. I thought, wrongly, that the only people I could trust were addicts and unhealthy people because they shared the same interests as me, which was doing drug and not caring about anyone or anything, including myself.

This time around  I have made a commitment to myself and that commitment is to fix my life. After I made that commitment, Salina, SOCD, and my Father all came along so I was supported while I work to achieve my goal. I finally got myself to SOCD where I feel more at home than any other place in this world. I let my walls down and let people in and allowed them to help me. Trust and security finally came to me! In recovery, I’ve learned that commitments need to be made in order to gain serenity. I realized that I needed to commit myself to working the steps and getting sponsor.  Sometimes life gets tough but I cant and won’t let that stop me. Remember, if you are following through with a commitment to better yourself, you must stick with it, even through the most difficult of times.

Vision in Recovery

 Here at South Orange County Detox & Treatment, we spend a lot of time trying to support our client’s vision, and even more time trying to aid them in discovering what their particular vision is. There is no time better than today to start conceptualizing your vision and putting it into action. If drugs and alcohol are a barrier to the achievement of your vision and purpose, please don’t hesitate to call us where we can help you begin this journey today!

Here at South Orange County Detox & Treatment, we spend a lot of time trying to support our client’s vision, and even more time trying to aid them in discovering what their particular vision is. There is no time better than today to start conceptualizing your vision and putting it into action. If drugs and alcohol are a barrier to the achievement of your vision and purpose, please don’t hesitate to call us where we can help you begin this journey today!


 This week at South Orange County Detox and Treatment we are talking about vision. Gaining vision that encompasses clarity, determination, persistence, and hope is not easy task, especially for the suffering addict. Incidentally, the ability to create a vision for oneself in sobriety is integral and absolutely necessary for long-term recovery. We talk in the rooms a lot about taking things “one day at a time” and there is much value to this adage. Remaining present in the moment and learning to enjoy life in the here and now is also crucial to sobriety, and just because one has a vision for the future, that does not mean that ignoring one’s current emotional or mental state is any less relevant; they are two sides of the same coin. Being present gives us clarity to seek out and execute our vision while having a vision grants us the serenity to be able to be fully present in the moment. Having a vision of what we want our lives to look like outside of the realm of drugs and misery is foreign to us addicts while we are out running and gunning.

It is, however, invaluable to our recovery because order to be joyous, content, and connected we need to be driven by meaning and purpose. This purpose begins when we have clarity of our vision and sometimes that vision can be as simple as getting to know yourself, who you are, who you want to be, and what you need to do in order to attain it. C.G. Jung put it this way, “Your vision will become clear only when you look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside awakens.” In other words, we can look to lovers, money, power, gambling, cars, clothes, and anything else that temporarily satisfies our true needs, but if we really want to harvest a meaningful and fulfilling vision, we have to look inside ourselves, and to our higher power, rather than illegitimate sources that instill us with that faux and fleeting happiness. The clever and conniving traps of materialism, co-dependency, and power, while ostensibly different, will lead us right back to the horrific road we traveled in substance addition prior to getting sober.

Here at South Orange County Detox & Treatment, we spend a lot of time trying to support our client’s vision, and even more time trying to aid them in discovering what their particular vision is. There is no time better than today to start conceptualizing your vision and putting it into action. If drugs and alcohol are a barrier to the achievement of your vision and purpose, please don’t hesitate to call us where we can help you begin this journey today!

Turning Vision into Reality

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Vision is essential in the healing process of addiction, and in life itself. It says in the bible that without a vision, people perish. Your vision is the key to your future, it’s important to not only look ahead in life but to have a certain way of living out your life. Visualizing what you want, and going for it. Setting an example in recovery and showing others the vision you have created for yourself and living that vision out is so important in helping others. Its shows them that there is hope and that if they think about what they want their life to look like, they can set the goals to achieve that vision. I know personally when I see someone’s vision being lived out in a positive way it’s inspiring. It not only shows what you can be capable of, but also shows leadership. And leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality.

Vision: A New Pair of Glasses in Sobriety

 South Orange County Detox & Treatment has given to me glasses, sober glasses, in the form of understanding emotional sobriety, the role of honesty with all things, and the grace of forgiveness.

South Orange County Detox & Treatment has given to me glasses, sober glasses, in the form of understanding emotional sobriety, the role of honesty with all things, and the grace of forgiveness.

There is nothing worse than a blurry vision. This is exactly what you have when you’re in your addiction: you can’t see straight, things appear as they are not, you don’t have a clear picture of what is right in front of you. South Orange County Detox & Treatment has given to me glasses, sober glasses, in the form of understanding emotional sobriety, the role of honesty with all things, and the grace of forgiveness. Through these I see my future clearly: a clear vision of my relationships; my kids and I happy, honest, navigating our way through life, sober, happy, close, healthy, my self-esteem intact and thriving, along with a fulfilling career and a vision of success. So my goal is to keep my new glasses on as my sobriety gift to myself. This will help my vision to stay clear one day at a time as long as I practice keeping them on every day!