The Healing Power of Love

“Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love?' These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will be many fruits, here in this world and the life to come”    -Henri Nouwen

“Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love?' These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will be many fruits, here in this world and the life to come”

-Henri Nouwen

To me, effective leadership requires independence, strength, creativity, optimism, passion, & commitment, and in my field, the driving force of LOVE. As the President of South Orange County Detox & Treatment my visionary leadership role is driven by my LOVE for helping people, specifically addicts who are struggling to find healing and purpose in their lives.  With the rising opiate epidemic, many people are stuck in the torturous cycle of addiction, while their families and loved ones are lost in a constant state of perpetual worry with limited answers to quench their thirst for solution. On this painful journey, I have sat with loved ones as they grieve the loss of their child, sibling, friend, and partner; brilliant and beautiful people lost in the depths of addiction too soon. I’m often asked why I do this job, investing so much into my work with clients when the losses are so painful? To that question, my answer is because of my LOVE for people and for the greater cause of fighting the battle of addiction. The benefits outweigh the grief and sorrow that I feel when a beautiful life is lost to this disease. The honor and reward comes from seeing people’s lives transform and loving every minute of it, despite the struggle. I have been fortunate enough to have helped many people find themselves, their higher power, their passions and vocations, and their sobriety, while rebuilding a connection to their families along the way. I get the pleasure of offering love, hope, and a future to those who are lost. God has divinely inspired this path and given me the ability to see the potential in others when they are unable to see it for themselves. I am grateful to be in this role and feel privileged that so many people have allowed me to privilege guide them out of darkness into the light.

I truly believe God has given every person the ability to LOVE with some form of greater purpose . On “Valentine’s Day”, the day dedicated to LOVE, I encourage you to find your purpose of LOVE and to give LOVE freely to another person. You may be surprised to see the powerful impact the one kind act of LOVE can have on another person’s life As Henri Nouwen so beautiful questioned,

“Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love?' These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will be many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.”

Commitment to Love

LOVE-RECOVERY WORD OF THE WEEK  SOUTH ORANGE COUNTY DETOX & TREATMENT-949-584-5927

LOVE-RECOVERY WORD OF THE WEEK

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Love is more than just a feeling. Love can be a vibe or atmosphere when around something or someone. It can be as simple as being content with my passion, or love with a significant other. The love I have for others isn’t about looks but who they are as a person. Being non-judgmental at first, taking the time to know and understand them. I find the inner beauty in others. Past or present, experiences, negative or positive, truly caring, loyal, honest, and compassionate for this significant other helped me fall in love over time, disregarding their appearance or past, only focusing on the present. Love isn’t something you want to rush into at first sight, this can be decieving, it takes time. Whether it’s a relationship or your passion, love is something you commit yourself to. Working through the difficult times and the outcome will be well worth it

Freedom is Love & To Love is Life

LOVE-RECOVERY WORD OF THE WEEK  SOUTH ORANGE COUNTY DETOX & TREATMENT-949-584-5927

LOVE-RECOVERY WORD OF THE WEEK

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For those of us addicts, who are clean & sober, we also celebrated the freedom from chemical dependency and addiction.  Addiction is an unexplainable phenomenon unlike any other. For the fortunate ones who don’t suffer from this disease, and who may not understand the imprisonment of being addicted to drugs and alcohol here’s a small glimpse of the bondage that addicts and alcoholics face.

Imagine a world where all logical and rational behaviors are nonexistent. Imagine a world with no God; with utter chaos and war. Imagine a world in where only our own selfishness to drink or use to ease our extinguishing discomfort exist. Imagine a word that is absent of love and free choice. Imagine a world where causing pain and suffering to the one’s we love the most, seems like the only option for temporary relief, physically and mentally. Imagine a world where there’s such despair, guilt and shame in a rapid and vicious cycle that feels hopeless and never ending.

For me, freedom is being able to open my eyes first thing in the morning giving thanks to my higher power for cutting loose the shackles that addiction has so heavily burdened upon my life. Freedom to me is enjoying meaningful relationships of those whom are close. Freedom to me are continual acts of selfishness and grace. Freedom to me is hope in a better tomorrow. Freedom is Love, and To Love is Life.

Showing Love through Action

LOVE-RECOVERY WORD OF THE WEEK  SOUTH ORANGE COUNTY DETOX & TREATMENT-949-584-5927

LOVE-RECOVERY WORD OF THE WEEK

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Love is something that is felt but also something that is shown through action. To show that you love someone is to do things for them that show you care for them and your grateful for them. Doing things for them shows that you care. But something just as simple as telling them or expressing how you feel, can make a major impact. Throughout my life I never felt love or acceptance, and if I did it was normally from a false idea of love or an idealized version. Being sober gives me the chance to truly discover who I am, and learn to love myself so that I can give and show love to other people, by showing the people I love that I care and appreciate them.

Alumni Spotlight- Travis Johnson

I was born and raised in a city that was hard to get away from. Most of my friends never left, unless it was the occasional visit to the Orange County Jail cell. It seemed to be an ongoing vicious cycle for all of us. It was easier for me to place blame on my living environment and make excuses, rather than look at myself. I placed blame on my family and upbringing for my drug addiction, always trying to justify my actions. I later began to realize that many people have things much worse and that I was trying to fill a deep empty void within myself. Honestly I wanted to be like the older crowd.  My brother is 12 years older so I got to see the aspects of partying at a pretty young age.  Once I saw that I knew that that’s who I wanted to become.  So I began drinking and using minor drugs to start out with.  Then as I got a bit older I found new things, and new types of people.  Now in my head the more tattoos and the harder the manual labor job you had, the more of a man you are.  The drugs became heavier and heavier until I was stuck in the addiction that would never let me go.  I was 13 years old signing my life away and not knowing it.  In a decade I experienced many things while using such as: loss, heartbreak, jail, violence, overdoses, and pretty much everything that goes along with drugs eventually.  I couldn’t go anywhere without a fix so I would never risk it.  I still to this day beat myself up and tell myself that I’ve wasted my youth but I am trying to move forward using that as a lesson and learning from it. 

From the ages of 18 to 26 I’d tried countless rehabs and nothing ever worked for me.  I’ll admit there were times I wasn’t planning on staying sober so, to me, it wasn’t that big of a deal but when I really promised myself I would be clean and actually wanted to stay clean there would always be a situation that would seem to take me down sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly.  The program I was being taught at these facilities was not working for me.  I eventually found South Orange County Detox and Treatment from a friend who said that it truly was a great program, so I tried.  I was suicidal, addicted, racist, full of hate and out of step with the world before I walked through these doors.  Some could say I was a helpless case, my family wanted nothing to do with me and I wanted nothing to do with them.  After detoxing the first couple of days I finally got enough strength and clarity to start joining groups with the others.  Salina Shuler, the owner, taught me so much about myself and I finally found hope by putting faith in her method.  I learned more in the 30-days at South Orange County Detox & Treatment than I had in my 10-years in other facilities.  Going to the weekly meeting scheduled here I found my sponsor and immediately started working my steps and gaining even more insight.  With the help of Salina, I enrolled myself in college and found out what I wanted to do with my life. She also helped me get my family back and help me achieve what I thought was absolutely impossible.  I’m now 18 months clean and sober and I would never be here if it wasn’t for the healing and love here given by Salina and South Orange County Detox and Treatment.

Gifts in Sobriety

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GIFTS-RECOVERY WORD OF THE WEEK

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SO far in sobriety I’ve gained many gifts, gifts that I would have never understood or appreciated in my using.  When I was using and probably even before that, gifts to me were materials, money, presents, etc.  I thought that these things could and would make me happy.  These things would end up used, spent or forgotten immediately and the so called “happiness” was a farce.  Getting clean after hitting my rock bottom was hard to see positively from right off the bat.  But putting work in I slowly started to gain little things here and there such as friends, energy, motivation, etc.  The little gifts that I never would have thought of are now helping me move forward.  Soon after that I got the gift of my family’s love and respect back which now motivates me to stick with my recovery and never forget the gifts or give them up for anybody.  In sobriety I have learned to play guitar, write songs, sing, quit smoking, show integrity, show honesty, change a negative, perspective and have gained the most important and meaningful relationships I’ve ever had.  These are the gifts that are now priceless to me thanks to South Orange County Detox & Treatment for showing me the way.

The Gift of Art in Recovery

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GIFTS-RECOVERY WORD OF THE WEEK

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As far back as I can remember, I always knew that I was given the gift of artistic abilities. This gift has given me the opportunities to express myself in many ways that I may have not otherwise engaged in. This type of creativity comes natural to me and holds a special place in my heart while being an outlet to express my soul. This gift of mine has helped me through dark times and in a way has provided me with an escape from life when I needed a break. I’ve used my gift not just for myself but with the intention of helping others as well. Friends and family find interest in my capabilities and tend to be overcome with smiles when I do art for them. Art is also a way for me to connect with others. When I’m focused on using my gifts I find that I have a better connection with everyone. We should never take our gifts for granted, especially if they make us happy and brings smiles to others. I have come to understand that in order to be able to spread the love that is my gift. I need to maintain a path of recovery and honesty so that I can fully expresses my creativity and channel it in a more positive way.

 

Gifts in Sobriety

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GIFTS-WORD OF THE WEEK

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 My first gift in sobriety, at the time, didn’t feel like a gift at all; it was the gift of desperation. I hit the same bottom I always do, the bottom of burning every bridge I had with one choice to go to treatment or possibly die. Luckily, I am fortunate enough to have family support so I didn’t end up at Charlie Street. The little things in life can be seen as gifts depending on the way I look at them. When I make the choice to take a disadvantage and flip it into an advantage, it makes collecting a 30-day chip A Gift. Now, I have over 8 months of sobriety and I am enrolled in school to become a hairdresser. That’s not just A Gift; that is A Miracle! What goes around comes around and with the help of Salina and South Orange County Detox & Treatment, I’ve learned to put my energy into hard work rather the in using. Watching it pay off while learning the skills of being comfortable being uncomfortable has shown me how to push through stressful situations that, in the past, I would have ran from or needed a substance in order to cope. The gift of learning who I want to be as a person has helped me understand who I really am. My favorite gift in sobriety is being able to push through my doubts that used to hold me back from growing, now I’m able to test my beliefs and prove the negative thought wrong. Life can one big gift if you’re willing to see it and open your eyes to the gifts that are there for the taking.

 

 

Alumni Spotlight- Recovery Success Story

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949-584-5927 OR 949- 702-7516

The ultimatum is life or death. Years of painful experience had finally led me to complete desperation. .  I had finally hit rock bottom in every sense of the word. I’m a 22-year-old honors student, drug-addict, and alcoholic with a strong affinity for whiskey, heroin, and meth. At the cusp of defeat and an impending death, I had come to the realization that I would ironically have to fight for my life by surrendering completely

It’s all fun and games until, suddenly, it’s not anymore. When using drugs habitually, this is when things get tragically real and very, very dark. After graduating high school with a cumulative 4.2 GPA, honors, and a scholarship to a university, celebratory partying seemed only necessary; I mean, everyone was doing it. So alcohol and marijuana was an occasional party staple I would partake in. Then, rather quickly, party drugs like ecstasy and “Molly” showed up to the party. Now, with the gate wide open, I was open-minded to cocaine and prescription pills of all sorts, first taken orally and then snorted. Long story short, methamphetamine and heroin became a habitual thing, accepted thing by the newfound sketchy group of characters one gravitates to at this point in addiction. And they were cheaper, stronger, and even more so when done intravenously.

These events of my drug use did not transpire in a linear fashion. The rate at which the drugs increased in their strength, danger, and frequency of use was exponential. Inversely, the quality of my life decreased exponentially. I lost possessions. I lost friends. I lost family. I was left with nothing but a shell of myself, dope-sick, broke and contemplating suicide out of shame and guilt. Terrified of another withdrawal and seizure along with the strong influence of my parents, the only people with some faith in me left, I checked myself into South Orange County Detox. Little did I know that this place, the director of SOCD and everyone involved would save my life and help to transform it into something truly beautiful.

But after my first two months, my old unhealthy lifestyle and behavior started to make me overconfident in a detrimental way. Naïve during my first time trying to get sober, I did not see the signs of a relapse. Unbeknownst to me, relapse is a deceivingly slippery slope.

I went out with this new girl I honestly knew nothing about, with distasteful intentions, and ended up relapsing on alcohol and methamphetamine almost immediately. The truly terrifying thing to me afterwards was how quickly I threw my sobriety away when I tried to have control over drug use in my life. For the first time in my life, all of the clichés I heard at AA meetings made complete sense to me. An alcoholic or drug addict cannot control and manage his or her life while doing drugs. And I realized then that I am completely an alcoholic and a drug addict. An unfortunate but necessary relapse showed me true powerlessness and allowed me to finally begin true recovery for the sake of myself.

The purpose of all of this, the solution I am trying to convey ultimately boils down to willingness. Willingness is to be able to accept powerlessness and management over my life when using drugs and alcohol. Following this, the next step for me was to be willing and open to filling the void of this powerlessness with a power greater than myself: my Higher Power as I understand him. I am now at the point in my recovery and sobriety where I finally have a deep spiritual connect with something inconceivably greater, unfathomable, and omnipresent that I can instill trust and faith into. I am willing and I have faith that I have a purpose and, for today, I will remain sober and cherish the life I was given.

The South Orange County Detox and Treatment Difference

The South Orange County Detox and Treatment Difference

If you’ve stumbled upon this blog post, chances are you’ve either been through detox and treatment or helped send a loved one through a facility for the help they so desperately needed. That being said, I won’t waste your time trying to educate you about the basic services provided in both settings. I will, however, delineate the differences between your run-of-the-mill center, and highlight what we here at South Orange County Detox & Treatment (SOCDT) provide that differentiates us from the pack.